Carousel of Romance? Top Revolving Carousel Musical Globe
Copyright © 2007 Betsy L. Angert
She heard it said every time the topic was brought up. The words flow from their mouths as the food did from hers. Terminology spills into the sink of the uninformed and ignorant just as her fare did almost immediately after she swallowed it. Resembling her refusal to digest what she ate, they reject what is offered to them. Bulimics do not do as they do so that they might feel in control. While marinating in a myriad of feelings and flavors, a binger that purges is not exerting his or her desire to control. She cannot. She knows this all too well.
In the same way an athlete understands, muscles have memory she recognizes a little practice goes a long way. The first time might have been a choice. The second was a consideration, followed quickly by an almost unexpected upheaval. After that, there was no need for a prompt. The cycle was complete. She was on a carousel cemented in concrete. She could not get off this ride. Oh, how she tried.
For her physiology, neurology, and biology were forces to be reckoned with. Psychology played a part, particularly on that first day. There were so many feelings she wanted to avoid. That evening she stuffed her face, inhaled her meal. Surely, food would relieve the pain.
Her stomach was bloated. She felt sick. Fingers were not necessary. She just threw up. After, she felt better, temporarily. In those moments, she was not thinking ‘this would be gratifying or great.’ She only wanted the ache to end. It did. The throbbing in her head, her heart, and her body went away for an instant.
She could not and did not control the hurt coming on; certainly, she was not controlling its egress. In actuality, the anguish only increased. Her life became a series, a sequel of events, repeated over and over again.
She awakes and thinks of food as she goes about the day. Thankfully, since transitioning from anorexia to bulimia the thoughts are not as overwhelming. Puking allows her to eat, and eat, and eat again and again. Indeed, she has become an eating apparatus. She consumes and is consumed.
Each day she must make time for her doings. She purchases her provisions. She buys enough to feed a few, perhaps, throngs of people. Preparing the fare will be full-filling for as she cooks she chomps on those condiments that need no roasting, toasting, baking, boiling, or frying. She controls nothing more than the temperature of the comestibles.
However, much must be done before she can fully engage. She has to drive or walk hauling her heavy load, pabulum for the voracious. As she strolls or struggles to maneuver the curves on the road, she begins her antics. Bananas are best for this part of the process. Should there be an accident she will be less worried if only fruit sits in her stomach. The long yellow crop exits the system easily. Some foods do; others do not.
Knowing what will settle in the belly too deeply to be retrieved and what is pliable enough to take leave on command is important. A scientist such as she is never able to fully control the chaos that is life. There is much to consider and manage. She learned long ago, nothing is truly manageable. Control is but a myth and she has no illusions.
In those early days, she choose to chew nuts while in transit. Cashews are beyond delicious. Brazil nuts are not bad. Peanuts are good-a plenty. Nevertheless, she learned. Too many of these, if the travel is long, or if the unexpected occurs, will not sit well. She might worry. Bulk gnaws at her. What if she cannot relieve herself in time? Besides, teeth crumble under the pressure. This delicacy is too hard on the enamel. After a fracture, a fissure, and the final falling out of dentine she forfeited the practice.
Once home was in sight, the excitement increases. Still there was much to do before she might genuinely begin. The groceries needed to brought in. Imagine taking bag after bag into the house, then the kitchen. She is a clean person and prefers to avoid chaos at all costs. The items must be put away. Some went directly into the stomach. Others filled cabinets.
The cupboards were never bare. She back-stocked. The idea of withdrawal, not having what she craved haunted her, even when not at home and not indulging or ingesting. This young woman would never suffer; it was contrary to her every belief. Yet, in truth she knew. She was agonizing. Nothing was in her control, not her thoughts, her actions, her feelings, and certainly, not her life.
After all was ready for her attention, there was more to be done before she could focus. She needed to dress in her throw-up clothes. She had a full wardrobe just for this purpose. As a fabric lost its resiliency, it was placed in an honored bin, a treasure trove. Shirts, sweatshirts, shorts, tee shirts, and pantaloons graced her body before the ceremony began. She cleaned these fibers each evening. She is a traditional soul and cherishes rituals.
Next, though she revels in sunshine and light, she needed to seal herself off from intruders. She did not wish to be discovered. Doors and windows were locked and sealed. Drapes and shutters were closed. Blankets, sheets, cardboard, and planks of wood were used to bar peekers from seeing beyond the shade. She wanted no one to view what was within.
Heaven knows what others might think if they knew what was going on inside the house, in her mind, heart, body, or soul. There are gaps between the wall and the window frame you know. She must eliminate these, close herself off. Try to control the uncontrollable, the unruly, herself, her life, her feelings, most importantly her hurt.
That did not happen. With each passing day, she was more distressed. The agony deepened. The doings had more power over her than she had over them.
The only consolation was, bingeing and purging were far easier than not eating. When she was an anorexic, she had less control or so it seemed. Starving a body starves a mind. Without nutrients or nourishment, growth and learning were less possible. She loves learning. She always has.
The lesson she now comprehends to her core is bulimia has nothing to do with a need to control or be in control. There is in reality no such possibility. Probabilities are chance. Any scientist will tell you we can only control for what we can predict. We can never fully understand the chaos of the universe. She certainly did not grasp hers. All that she was sure of was she was out of control.
She recognizes that she has no power. She tries to flee from her feelings. That is her deepest desire. Weight is not the issue. It is a derivative, a diversion. She longs to take flight. At last, she is organized. The great escape can begin!